Wednesday, February 13, 2013

A Reason, A Season, A Lifetime


People generally come into your life for a Reason, a Season or a Lifetime.
Understanding this principle can enhance your relationships by helping you better serve others and learn or grow from what they have to offer.

Reason

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it may be they have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance. They may be in your life to support you physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
difficult person can challenge you to grow in patience, forgiveness, and/or understanding. Some people may test your strength, commitment, willpower, determination, and/or ethics. A positive and supportive person who comes into our life may seem like a blessing and godsend; and they are. In either case, the person has come into your life for the reason needed.
One day, seemingly without any reason, the relationship may come to an end. This may happen over time as you drift apart, or more suddenly. It may be a positive experience such as someone getting married or moving to another city to take a job offer. Or, the relationship may end through negative circumstances that force you to take a stand on an issue.
What we must realize is that a need has been met – for you and for them. Perhaps it was an unknown need, or maybe it was an answer to a prayer. If the relationship has ended, then reflect, give thanks, consider what you learned, think about what you could/would do better next time (even if you felt the relationship was a good one), forgive if needed, hope/wish/pray the best for that person, and then move on in your journey.

Season

Some people come into your life for a SEASON — an extended period of time. Just as there are seasons for planting, growing, and harvesting; in your  life, there are seasons when you are prepared to learn, grow, or produce. There are other times in your life when you’re not prepared to grow, learn, or even listen. So, when someone comes into your life at a certain season, it is (hopefully) because the timing is right for what they can offer you.
This person may bring you an experience of great peace, joy, or happiness. They may empower you to do something you have never done before. They may you assurance and strengthen your self-confidence. Accept this, and embrace it. It is real. Yet, maybe for only for a season.
Consider… In life, you may have tasks on a To Do list as well as long-term projects that need to be pursued over a period of weeks, months, or years. In the same way, those who come into your life for a short-term Reason, may help you check something off our To Do list. Those who come into your life for a Season will (hopefully) remain for the duration of a more complex long-term purpose.

Lifetime

Some people are in your life for a LIFETIME. These people are, perhaps, the greatest blessing because they stick with you through the Reasons, Seasons, and through your entire lifetime. Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons. These are often qualities, skills, and aspects of your character you must build upon in order to have a solid foundation for yourself and in service to others. Be sure to acknowledge, value, be thankful for, and love the people who are in your life for a lifetime. Apply what you have learned. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Christian/Pagan Kittens- Joke



(Here’s a lil pagan humor 4 ya...if u laugh great if it offends sry...but I really thought it was cute hav a good day)
BA
Christian VS. Pagan Kittens
A fundamentalist preacher was taking a walk one day and happened upon a young girl who was playing with something in a cardboard box. When he got closer he could see that in the box was a litter of new-born kittens.
"What kind of kittens are those?" asked the preacher.
"Why, they're Christian kittens," replied the little girl.
The preacher walked on, pleased to see that the little girl had Jesus
foremost
in her heart.
A week later, the preacher was walking down the same street and saw the
little
girl again playing with the kittens.
"And how are your little Christian kittens doing today?" asked the man
of God.
"Oh, they aren't Christian kittens, they're Pagan kittens," replied the
girl.
"But..but.. I thought you said last week that they were Christian
kittens,"
sputtered the flabbergasted preacher.
"Oh, they were. But now their eyes are open."

Columbine; A True Symbol Of Courage

On April 20, 1999, Eric Harris and Dylan Kelbold waltz into Columbine High School in Littleton Colorado and executed a well-meditated plan by opening fire, and killing 13 before turning the guns on themselves. Such a tragedy will probably always spark fear, and anxiety as our society attempts to heal, but are we handling our grief in a proper manner, or are we actually adding more coals to the embers of yesterday?
Unlike many Americans, I spent the tenth anniversary of the Columbine catastrophe not only dealing with my own emotions, but also rumbling through numerous articles that were written by different authors around the world. Interestingly enough, everywhere I looked, I seen “memorials”. However, these articles were full of hate and discontent. I say this because people are still incident focused, and full of blame. In other words, they are continuing to pick and chose which elements they want to embrace instead of acknowledging the essentials needed to learn a valuable lesson.
You see, the fact is, there are 15 sets of family members, and 15 circles of friends/associates in Littleton that lost a love one on that day. By refusing to acknowledge such, says that we far from healing. It also means that society in general is endorsing the possibility of future violence. After all, Harris and Kelbold may have been troubled murdering teens, but they were human, and anyone who has ever lost a family member knows that it does not matter how your loss happen, it matters that it hurts!
Therefore, I ask do we have the right to continue to ostracize Harris and Kelbold, or their families. Do we have the right to publicize and use the photos of these boy’s mutilated bodies surrounded by their own brain matter and blood? I believe that if you say yes, you need to re-evaluate your philosophies by asking yourself: How would I feel if the shoe were on the other foot? Would I want society to shun me? NO! Oh and before you even say, “That would never happen to me.” I want you to remember that the Harris and Kelbold families probably thought it could never happen to them either.
In other words, I am soliciting your attention, and asking you to do what I believe that victim Rachael Scott would have done by taking the final steps to eliminate ALL prejudice concerning Columbine. After all, forgiveness is not just a symbol of healing, It is the truest “Symbol of courage”; a symbol that we should be able to display proudly. Of course, I believe the result should include the addition of Harris and Kelbold in EVERY Columbine Memorial. After all, everyone deserves the right to mourn their loss; even the families and friends of Harris and Kelbold.

Dr. Laura Berman Dishes Sex Ed To Parents On Oprah

Several years ago, I took a Human Sexuality course and learned that if a female child were raised in a sexual "healthy" atmosphere, and taught that their bodies are their own, that something wonderful could happen. A young girl could naturally (all by them selves) learn to orgasm by age 7 or 8. This amazed me, because I realized that society had evolved in a positive way. It enforced the values that I had always believed to be true. Masturbation is not wrong or nasty and if a child grows up believing that his or her body is ok for exploring, as long as it is done in the privacy of their own room (or shower), they will learn to do what many mature women cannot. What I did not know back then was that so many women have never experienced the pleasure associated with an orgasm.
Therefore, I was so happy that Oprah decided to allow Dr. Berman to provide such an educational tool to her viewers. I mean, the fact is, most people just do not understand the atmosphere we are raising our children in. There is so much more to becoming a healthy sexual being than the "natural dynamics" that we were never taught. For instance, in 2001, my oldest daughter turned 11. Believe me when I say, I never would have dreamed of the questions that she could come home with, and I thank my lucky stars that my own parents had been honest with me, because some very intense questions hit me like a rock filled snowball; such as:
"Why do the boys at school ask the girls if they spit or swallow?" and
"Why do the boys ask girls if they are deep or shallow throated?"
Ok, so as a parent, I was floored, but I stayed "cool,” and more importantly I told her the truth. I explained that she already knew that men produced sperm and what sperm was. She agreed. Then I told her that the answer to her 1st question was rather graphic, but that she deserved an answer. Therefore, I told her that the boys wanted to know if when she sucked their penis, if she spit or swallowed the sperm. She about died.
The next day, she returned with the second question and again I produced an answer. I told her that the boys wanted to know if the girls could take a whole penis in their mouth. Ok, so it might seem that these young boys were openly asking some extremely nasty questions. However, are they really? I mean, the fact is, we as parents know that maturity brings acceptance, and we know that oral sex is a pleasurable natural part of life for some people. Therefore, why should the topic be treated as taboo? IT SHOULD NOT BE!
Parents are supposed to be mature adults and role models for their children. They should NEVER refuse to answer a child's question; no matter how inappropriate it may seem. Then again, I think my psychology instructor put it better than I have ever heard it said. Bob said, “We must psychologically inoculate our children”. By this, he meant that we must approach hard topics with complete honesty, and be willing to provide the good, the bad, and the ugly. Because if we do not; someone else will, and he is RIGHT!
I am the mother of 4, grand mother of 6, street mother of over 200 and a future psychologist. This means that I’ve not only lived through my own childhood, but have watched and assisted many other children as they have embarked on their own quest for knowledge. I know first hand that you cannot protect your child by sheltering them, because sex is everywhere. It is on TV. It is in movies. It is in music. It is on bathroom walls. It is on the Internet. It is even coming from the lips of elementary school students! Therefore, we parents have to step up to the plate and arm our children with knowledge, and we must do so before they are misguided by an inappropriate source.
So, where do parents find the resources to educate him/herself? Well Oprah and Dr. Berman have made it easy. You can download a free copy of Dr. Berman’s book called, “ Talking To Kids About Sex Handbook” at http://www.oprah.com/article/oprahshow/20090326-tows-talking-to-kids-about-sex-handbook and remember the info presented on the show and through new studies might seem shocking, or whelming, but it is well worth considering. I say this because I would much rather answer the most difficult questions given to me by a small child or hand my 12 yr old a vibrator, than find out that their 1st sexual encounter lead to HIV.

"America's Blood Stained Hands"

Abstract
This document will provide a critical retrospective forensic evaluation of the events that occurred between the United States Government, and the Branch Davidians of Mount Carmel, in Waco Texas, in 1993. It is through such analysis that you should gain a better understanding of this tragedy, and the lives of nearly 100 lost souls.
Introduction 
It has been15 years since the 51-day standoff in Waco, Texas between the Branch Davidians of Mount Carmel and the United States Government. Yet, society has made little to no progress in understanding the complexities of this tragic event. Maybe this is because we think we need to demonize the Davidians and exonerate the United States Government, or demonize the United States Government and exonerate the Davidians. Either way our society continues to have many outstanding questions.
The fact is there are three sides to this story; the Davidians, the Governments, and the truth. Therefore, what I must do, as an independent forensic psychologist, is approach the situation with an open mind, and then realize that each party may have actually experienced the situation differently. If I do this, then maybe I will be able to weed through the over whelming mounds of opinions and evidence, and accomplish some sort of conclusion.

Case History 

  • In 1985, Vernon Howell married Rachael Jones (14), and through contributions from the group took a trip to Israel. It was in Israel that Vernon became anointed, and began to envision himself as the modern day Cyrus (Samuelson, 1993). Upon returning to Texas, Rachael gave birth to their son Cyrus Ben-Joseph Howell, and purchased a 40-acre property in Palestine, Texas (Samuelson, 1993).
  • In 1986, Marc Breault, and Howell’s mother Bonnie joined the group (Samuelson, 1993). Howell made his first trip to Australia where he managed to gain acceptance from several of Ben and Lois Roden’s previous members (Samuelson, 1993), and he began practicing polygamy. It was at this time that he claimed Karen Doyle (14) as his second wife, and Michele Jones (12) his third (Samuelson, 1993).
  • This is the same year that George Roden, the son of Ben and Lois Roden, dug up a 25-year-old corpse, and challenged Howell to revive it. Koresh not only refused to participate in such foolishness, but he also alerted local authorities. But, they required more than the word of Koresh, which caused Koresh and his followers to formulate a plan. Then, despite warnings from the sheriff to use caution, Koresh lead several armed followers to Mt. Carmel with hope to collect photographs of a body in a casket, and leave. Things did not go as planned. Roden caught the 8 vigilantes and began to shoot at them; which lead to his being shot. After which, Jack Harwell, the sheriff of McLennan County, called Koresh to inform him and the others that they were being charged with attempted murder. He suggested that the men relinquish their weapons, and turn themselves in. To this day, records show that the Davidians were more than accommodating, and that the charges were eventually dropped after a jury ruled 9-3 in favor of the Davidians; who by the way had purchased their firearms in a completely legal manner. At this point, Howell took his rightful place as leader of the Branch Davidians. He even paid 16 years worth of back taxes (Samuelson, 1993).
  • In 1989, Nicole Gent left for Australia to have her baby. Hostility between Howell and Breault began. Breault’s wife Elizabeth returned to Australia as Breault waited for a visa that would allow him to join her. During this time, Breault attempted to reconcile with Howell and while it worked for a time, it was never the same. Therefore, Marc Breault left Mount Carmel, never to return (Samuelson, 1993). Basically, from that point on the two men became opposing forces over a battle concerning the Davidians in Australia; most left Howell (Samuelson, 1993).
  • In 1990, Vernon Howell legally became David (King David) Koresh (Hebrew for Cyrus). Koresh tried to establish a branch of his sect in Israel that year, and his attempts failed. Unfortunately, this would not be the best that the year had to offer; especially since Robyn Bunds broke away from the sect, and three warrants, for statutory rape, were issued against him (Samuelson, 1993). Obviously, things looked dim, and it was not about to get better anytime soon. To say the least eight Australians alleged that: Koresh was guilty of child abuse, including statutory rape, food and water deprivation, neglecting education, and exposing children to explicit episodes of sex and violence. They said that they feared that he would eventually engage in child sacrifice if something were not done to prevent it. During this time, they also accused Koresh of assault with a deadly weapon, tax fraud, failure to register the births of his children, possessing and carrying concealed weapons, and massive immigration violations. All of which would play into his plan to enrage authorities into an apocalyptic gun battle (Samuelson, 1993).
  • Joyce Sparks of the Texas Department of Human Services in Waco made unannounced visits to Mont Carmel, and her investigations came up empty handed. (Samuelson, 1993) allegations of weaponry, were declared false when The Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco, Firearms and Explosives (AFT) checked local gun store records and found everything to be in order. Koresh offered to allow the ATF to inspect his guns, but they declined. Obviously, they did not feel the need (Samuelson, 1993). Then again, maybe they were more interested in snooping than they were checking the guns in the first place, for two undercover agents rented a house that sat about 300 yards away from the Davidians (Samuelson, 1993).
  • The Dallas Morning News obtained an FBI memo. It stated that no information had been found to verify Michigan allegations of "child abuse and neglect, tax evasion, slavery and reports of possible mass destruction." (Samuelson, 1993). In addition,  “in January 1993, CS Gas was banned at the Chemical Weapons Convention in Paris (Samuelson, 1993).”
  • On February 25, 1993, Agent Aguilera's submitted an affidavit that became U. S. Magistrate Greene’s sole reason for issuing a warrant (Samuelson, 1993). The ATF then sidestep local authorities. They called the impending raid "Operation Trojan Horse" (Samuelson, 1993), which at first consisted of a plan to bait Koresh away from the Davidian complex in order to avoid involving innocent women and children. However, when the element of surprise became lost, they changed their minds and chose to act immediately (Samuelson, 1993). Interestingly enough they had already told the media to prepare for a big blow out (Samuelson, 1993).
  • On February 27, 1993, articles concerning the Branch Davidians “cult” appeared in the Waco Tribune-Herald. However, the ATF was not pleased with such reports, and so they privately criticized the Waco paper for such publication (Samuelson, 1993).
  • Feb 28, 1993, One hundred AFT agents were deployed and arrive at The Branch Dravidian’s home/church in Mount Carmel, Waco Texas with a mission to serve a warrant on David Koresh. While attempting to serve this warrant, a gun battle began, which ultimately resulted in the death of 4 ATF agents and 6 Branch Davidians. With only 40 rounds of ammunition left, the AFT began to retreat and made a request for the FBI hostage Rescue Team to provide assistance. In return, FBI SWAT was deployed, and communication between the two began. At first, Koresh agreed to release women and children if the FBI would allow him to broadcast a national message. The FBI agreed (Dennis, 1993).
  • Feb 29, 1993 Matteson and Lawson left the Davidians with 4 children. These women were then arrested and charged for conspiracy to murder. While charges, which were later dropped, the women were still held as material witnesses. Then, on this day against recommendations by negotiators and behavioral specialists, military vehicles were deployed to the estate (Dennis, 1993).
  • March 5, 1993, Koresh requests suture kit, 6 gallons of milk, and a video of the previously released children. These requests were granted. He also requested to be allowed to remove Peter Gent’s body, which was also granted. Lastly, Koresh requested a direct line to the media and for the military equipment to be removed. These requests were denied (Dennis, 1993).
  • March 8, 1993 The Davidians continue to request a line to the media, three Davidians are permitted to bury Peter Gent’s body in a shallow grave in the front yard, and Koresh sends out money so that agents can purchase 6 more gallons of milk. At this point, a videotape of the children was released for publication, however the FBI chose to suppress the tape in fear that such a release would create a sympathy bond between the viewers and Koresh (Dennis, 1993).
  • March 9, 1993, Agents cut off and on power to the “Home” several times. The Davidians hang a sheet out the window with the words, “GOD HELP US WE WANT PRESS.” (Dennis, 1993)
  • March 10, 1993, the power again is turned off and on as the FBI begins to “clear” the grounds; while destroying Davidians property in the process (Dennis, 1993).
  • March 12, 1993, Kathy Schroeder leaves so that she can be with her children. Once out, she calls back in. 6 more gallons of milk are delivered, and against negotiators, advice the power is cut off again (Dennis, 1993).
  • March 14, 1993, Gyarfas and Schroeder both are permitted to call the compound. They assured the Davidians that they were being treated well and that they had access to telephones and the press (Dennis, 1993).
  • March 16, 1993, Koresh requests a copy of the Feb. 28, 1993 warrant, but doesn’t receive this copy until Feb. 19 (Dennis, 1993)
  • March 17, 1993, Agents send in a video of the “released” members (Dennis, 1993).
  • March 18-19, 1993 FBI continues to cause property damage as they bulldozed around the property. Koresh pleaded with them to stop (Dennis, 1993).
  • March 20-21, 1993, Victoria Hollingsworth, Annetta Richard, Rita Riddle, Sheila Martin, and Ofelia Santoyo leave (Dennis, 1993).
  • March 22, 1993, FBI continues clearing out property against negotiators advice (Dennis, 1993).
  • March 23, 1993, Livingstone Fagan leaves and supposedly refuses to call back to the home (Dennis, 1993).
  • March 24, 1993, Louis Alaniz, a non-Davidian, managed to bypass authorities and break into the home (Dennis, 1993).
  • March 24, 1993, The Davidians complain about destruction to children’s motorcycles and the fact that bibles were being taken away from the individuals who had left. When further negotiations failed, the FBI resumed destructive measures and decided to refuse to allow anyone to exit the home to care for their animals (Dennis, 1993).
  • March 26, 1993 Jesse Amen breaks passed the agents and enters the building and Davidians hang another sheet out the window. It read “TANK BROKE THE PHONE LINE.” (Dennis, 1993)
  • March 27, 1993 Kathy Schroeder was charged with conspiracy to murder. Again, negotiations failed and FBI retaliated by bulldozing the fence in front of the home. They were however kind enough to deliver 6 more gallons of milk.
  • Over the next few days several people attempted to exit the building, but were flashed banged by the FBI agents (Dennis, 1993).
  • April 9, 1993 Davidians complain that tanks were unnecessarily running back and forth over Gents grave, and that agents were engaging in derogatory actions. They stated that agents were “flipping the finger”, and “mooning” the Davidians women if they peered out their windows. They also complained of being flash banged for coming out (Dennis, 1993).
  • April 10, 1993, Agents install razor wire around the perimeter (Dennis, 1993).
  • April 14, 1993, Koresh agrees to surrender if permitted to write the 7 seals. He estimates that it would take about 14 days. Negotiators agree and tell him to take his time (Dennis, 1993).
  • April 16, 1993, Koresh has finished the 1st seal and continues working on the 2nd (Dennis, 1993).
  • April 17, 1993, Louis Alaniz leaves the Davidians. Janet Reno plans to gas (Dennis, 1993).
  • April 18, 1993, Reno’s plan is sent to President Clinton. Koresh’s prize car is removed, and typing supplies are delivered (Dennis, 1993).
  • April 19, 1993, FBI announces that they are about to unleash non-lethal gas into the compound. Davidians open fire against the gas filled vehicles. By noon, fire erupts from three separate locations of the Davidians home. 9 Davidians manage to escape, and 82 individuals (including 21 children.) parish in the flames (Dennis, 1993).
  • From this point on, everything turns chaotic as the Government demonized the Davidians and the Davidians demonize the Government.
 
 
Psychological analysis. 
“The Davidians”
 
By examining the “facts”, it becomes easy for me to understand why the United States Government believed that the events of 1993 were a direct effect of the Branch Davidian “cult’s” own doing. On the other hand, these same facts also explain how the Branch Davidians could be so terrified of authorities that they would died defending their beliefs. For instance, lets examine David Koresh and his fellowship.
From the moment the situation at Waco became public, Government officials used the media to create an illusion of David Koresh and his followers that could not have been farther from the truth. The government used criteria from a warrant obtained by the ATF to publicly accuse the Davidians of stockpiling illegal firearms, drug production, and bogus child abuse allegations (Gazecki, 1997 & Committee, 1996). They also made a mockery of the group’s apocalyptic, and polygamy beliefs, which helped to gain support from not only government officials like Attorney General Janet Reno, and president Bill Clinton, but also the public in general for their initiative (Committee, 1997). In other words, they wanted viewers to believe that this man had become so committed to his own apocalyptic prophecy that he was not only willing face execution, but was also willing to allow his followers to martyr themselves as well. This in hindsight meant that the Government agents could use unnecessary force against innocent people, without backlash for their actions. Of course, before they could act out their sadistic plan, they had to force society to believe that this group was “brainwashed” enough that they no longer cared about anything else; including their children. Unfortunately, none of the above allegation was true.
The fact is the officials in charge knew very little about Koresh, and the Davidians. Therefore, they did what seemed only logical. They compared David Koresh to a variety of other “cult” leaders and stand off cases that had previously made negative impacts on society, and this use of ethnocentrisms became the first of many mistakes (Committee, 1997).
This is why I feel it is important to analyze Koresh and his people without bias. This does not mean you cannot evaluate his life, and his personality, or that you cannot compare him to other seductive leaders. What it means is that you must also evaluate religious “cults” as a whole, and make room for the theory that the United States Government was in the wrong and violated these individual’s Constitutional rights; which is impossible to do with out examining the real meaning of the word cult.
The title “cult” is a derogatory term. In fact, the word “cult” could be used to describe any organized religion (Watters, 2009), because cults carry certain characteristics that most organized religions have. For instance, cults have a leader who recruits his or her supporters by misleading them, and then robs them of their own individual identities (Viswanathan, 2007); a technique that experts call “thought reform”. In general, thought reform includes two steps. First, the leader must break down the individuals current belief system (Viswanathan, 2007). Second, they must reeducate the individual so that they become a new person (Viswanathan, 2007). An example of this process can be witnessed on any given day as Christian fellowships seek out and recruit “sinners” in order to save them from enduring an afterlife in Hell (Viswanathan, 2007). This, by the way, in most cases is nothing short of a believer shoving biblical emotional baggage on to the shoulders of a non-believer, until they accept the message that is being taught; thus being something that Koresh did not do.
Actually, David Koresh was quite open with his teachings, sure, he held strong beliefs and taught those beliefs; but he never really manipulated anyone. He was even known in universities nationwide. Therefore, it is logical to say that the Davidians were not brainwashed. They had pre-developed thoughts, feelings, and bonds of their own, and when they chose to join David’s group they did so willingly, because they felt they had finally found a “home” and a leader who could and would guide them in the direction that “THEY” wanted to go (Branch Davidians, 1993). Simply put, these people were just like most Americans. They read their bibles, listened to a teacher’s interpretations, and either accepted it as truth or they did not. That means that this acceptance was the result of reasoning, not a result of Koresh’s malfunctioning personality. Therefore, it becomes easy to see that unlike the “People of Jonestown,” these people were not hostages in fear for their lives or being held against their will (Branch Davidians, 1993). They were free to leave at any given time (Branch Davidians, 1993, Samuelson, 1993 & Dennis, 1993). (Special note: in order to say that Koresh used psychological religious manipulation methods to control his fellowship, you must realize that all religious leaders participate and use some type of these same actions)  Of course, that means that the Government deceived us. Right? Well, even this interpretation is risky.
However, such an inconsistency will definitely place a barrier in the decision making process when it comes down to deciding who made the most makes. Therefore, in order to continue, I felt the need to look at this group as individuals. Were they a group of psychotics who abused each other and the children, or were they law-biding citizens who had simply decided to live a life style that was deviant to “American” culture?
Despite popular belief, the fact is that further investigation suggests that the Davidians in general, were law-biding individuals (Samuelson, 1993). They never even tried to evade authority figures. For that matter, in the past, this group had cooperated fully with both McClennan County Sheriff Jack Harwell, and Joyce Sparks of the Texas Department of Human Services, and in every investigation, the allegations were unsubstantiated (Samuelson, 1993). This is including an investigation where the Davidians’ firearms were removed, inspected, and returned (Samuelson, 1993). These details suggest that the AFT overstepped its boundaries before even setting one foot onto the Davidians property. So let us move on to the events of February 28, 1993, and the ATF’s malicious way of issuing a warrant.

“February 28, 1993”

As seen in the case history, the ATF were well aware of the “family” atmosphere within the Davidians’ home, and that the “family” consisted of approximately one-hundred men, women and children. This in and of it’s self should have forced the agents to use caution (Committee, 1996), but it did not. Instead, the AFT deployed one hundred armed, “military trained” agents to the Branch Dravidian home, where they stormed the scene (Committee, 1996). [Please note that the military training they were not entitled to because the ATF made false allegations that the Davidians were involved in drug manufacturing procedures, a charge that was never verified (Committee, 1997).] Such acts caused the Davidians to retaliate, which may or may not have caused the death of 4 ATF agents.
I say may or may not have because after reviewing post-released film of the event, I personally see evidence that is contractive to these allegations (Gazecki, 1997). In fact, these videos clearly show that one ATF agent shot his self in the leg while climbing the ladder, and then after three other agents blasted their way through a window, he opened fire into the same window. [Special note: the majority of the holes seen in the home were produced by outside weapons. (Gazecki, 1997)] Therefore, the four deceased agents could have been the result of ATF activity, instead of what was perceived as Davidian rage. Not to mention the Davidians were less than anxious to continue firing, once ATF agents began to retreat; along with their willingness to allow agents to retrieve their deceased agents from within the home. [Special note: While the ATF had somewhere around 40 rounds of ammunition left, the Davidians had enough to eliminate the remaining agents had they have chosen to (Committee, 1997).]
However, the agents were not as kind, for they allowed Mike Schroeder, a Branch Davidian whose only desire was to get home to his wife and children, but was shot with 9 rounds. Then left to hang on a fence (like a trophy) by ATF and FBI agents for several days; despite the fact that the man’s wife and children could see him from near by windows (Thompson, 1993). [Special note: When the FBI finally did remove Schroeder’s body, they used a grappling hook, and deposited it in a nearby field where wild dogs feasted on the carnage until it was destroyed (Thompson-2, 1993).]
“The Stand-Off”
Once the ATF massacred Mike Schroeder and five others, and then tucked their tail to retreat, the negations process was handed over to the FBI (Dennis, 1993). This is about the time that things became even more controversial, because those inside the “compound” were faced with extremely rough decisions. They could come out and face the agents, who had played judge, jury and executioner or they could remain inside and wait for a sign from God. They decided to wait for God.
Over the first week, early negotiations brought reasonable results. 21 children and two elderly women exited the building. However negotiation efforts were sabotaged by the less than professional way that the FBI continuously over rode the negotiator. The fact is, I cannot say that the Davidians were completely innocent, because they did refuse to come out. However, I can state that the Government officials made such a plan less than inviting. You see, despite recommendations from behavioral specialists, the agencies used a variety of abusive, barbaric tactics. They continuously turned on and off the power supply to the home (Dennis, 1993 & Committee, 1997). They ran over and destroyed the Davidians’ property, and Peter Gent’s grave with tanks (Dennis, 1993). They used psychological warfare methods, such as floodlights through windows, blasting repetitive irritating music, and the sounds of rabbits being slaughtered from loud speakers (Dennis, 1993 & Committee, 1997). They refused to allow the Davidians to contact the media (Dennis, 1993 & Committee, 1997). They flash banged anyone who exited (Dennis, 1993 & Committee, 1997). Then, as if that was not bad enough, the agents flipped them off and dropped their pants to shine their backside at the women if they peeked out of the windows (Dennis, 1993). If you ask me, I believe that any normal person would chose to hide in the safety of his or her own home over facing a corrupt mob of government officials such as this.
Then again, as stated before several did eventually decide to leave the building. Lucky for them, there were agents ready to ship them off for interrogations, and then place them in holding just incase they could be used as material witnesses, which was nothing short of false imprisonment (Dennis, 1993). After all, the original search warrant was for David Koresh, and the rights to search for illegal firearms, not to capture, incarcerate, and interrogate innocent people (Committee, 1993). Right?
Basically, the entire 51-day siege was a torturous event, and just when the Davidians thought they might escape, the government changes the rules again. David Koresh had negotiated a deal with the FBI negotiator that if he were permitted to follow “God’s” will and write out his interpretation of the 7 Seals, then he would willingly walk out with his people. However, before he could even finish the second Seal, President Clinton, Attorney General Janet Reno, and the FBI decided to use tanks to bust holes in the Davidians home, and use CS gas against them. This cruel and unnecessary procedure would place in action a chain of events that would set fire to the Davidians home, send 9 Davidians to prison, and cause the agonizing deaths of 82 others, of which 21 were innocent babies.

“The Cover Up”

            After the smoke cleared, many interesting things happen. Videotapes became lost (Committee, 1997). The FBI refused to allow anyone other those networking directly with the FBI to enter the scene. The bodies were poorly stored. Even scientists who had been sent to test the weapons were turned away and told that the FBI would conduct the tests. Above all, they totally demolished, and even hid all evidence that may have placed them at blame. In other words, the FBI covered their tracks and got off scott free, while the survivors of this holocaust paid for crimes that they did not commit.

Conclusion 

            After sifting through as much of the available “public” information as possible in the time frame allotted, it is with great concern that I must conclude that the events of Waco 1993 could have definitely been prevented. For one, the American Government and affiliates should have validated all allegations, and eliminated any and all sources that may have been invalid; such as Mr. Breault and the others in his group who had a personal grudge against the Davidians. Secondly, the agencies should have invested their time in research, so that they could gain a clear understanding of the true nature of Koresh and the Davidians before they jumped into getting the warrant. Third, the agencies should have worked on a less threatening way to enforce a warrant, such as waiting until Koresh left the home. Then again, I think everyone would have benefited if the agencies had displayed patience, and withheld their own prejudice long enough to for whatever negotiation to happen in order to ensure that innocence was not lost. Of course, we cannot turn back the hands of time, therefore the United States Government becomes ultimately responsible for the deaths of nearly a hundred individuals; including 21 innocent children and two pregnant women.
 
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Branch Davidians (1993) Branch Davidian People Hillary Clinton Killed. Retrieved on March 2, 2009
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Committee On Government Reform and Oversight (1996). Investigation Into The Activities Of The
Federal Law Enforcement Agencies Toward The Branch Davidians Retrieved on Feb. 14, 2009 from the U.S. Government Printing Office website:  http://permanent.access.gpo.gov/lps3378/h.rept.104-749.pdf
Dennis, E. (1993) Evaluation of the Handling of the Branch Davidians Stand-Off In Waco Texas.
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Samuelson, E. (1993) REVISED WACO CHRONOLOGY -- October 1993. Retrieved on March
            16, 2009 from the scepticfiles.org website: http://www.skepticfiles.org/waco/batf.htm
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Thompson, L-2 (1993). What Happen At Waco. Retrieved on March 3, 2009 from the serendipity
Viswanathan, S. (2007) Cults: Dangerous Devotion. Retrieved on March 1, 2009 from youtube.com
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Personal Statement:
My primary reason for choosing this topic is because the case mentioned above happen right before my eyes. I still recall lying on the bed, and screaming at the television as news showed the tanks plowing their way through the walls of the Davidians home. Of course, back then at 19, I really did not understand what was happening. All I knew was that my two children were playing in the other room, while I kept hearing that the Davidian children were still inside and that the parents wouldn’t come out because they were apart of some child abusing, illegal weapon hording cult. It still feels so real to me, and this assignment gave me the chance to really dig into the past and find the answers that I have so desperately yearned for over the past 15 years. Therefore, while, I realize that this paper may spark some interesting conversation, I hope that it will also help answer someone else’s questions.
 Thank You.

The Suleman Controversy Continues

SO, The world famous Suleman octuplets and their mother Nadya have once again become the topic of controversy amongst the American public, all because Nadya decided to terminate the involvement of Dr. Phil’s Angels in Waiting USA (AIW). However, I ask, was this decision really so wrong, or would the majority of American Families have done the same thing?

Personally, I believe that most American families would have given these “Angel’s of Death” the boot when they entered the scene with judgmentally clinched fists. But then, in Suleman’s defense I must say that would have been hard to do because she was ass end over a barrel; either she accepted “THIS” help or the hospital would refuse to release her children. Talking about bullshit, I do not think anyone should face a decision like this; esp under such stressful conditions. Which brings me to the AIW’s offer being accepted, and the impression they gave as they entered the scene.

The fact is that from the very beginning, the mere presence of these women gave me chills. First their website puts me in mind of a black market baby ring that removes society’s fragile youth and then places them with nurses instead of regular foster homes. Then if you listened to them, it was easy to hear the “greater than thou” attitudes as they continuously mock Suleman, and judge her as incapable of raising her children. Of course, this causes me to ask a number of questions. Such as, why do these women set a higher standard for the Suleman’s than would be expected for any other premie bearing family? I mean, is it “normal” for a gang of social workers to enter a parent’s home and give it the white glove treatment in order to decide if a home is fit for a newborn’s release? And, what was so wrong with Nadya’s new home that it would place her children at greater risk than other family’s homes? Personally, I think that Nadya’s house puts the majority of the homes to shame, and the remodeling process was uncalled for! I say this because from what I could see, the carpets weren’t filthy, the walls weren’t destroyed, and it appeared to be in excellent condition, which is more than I can say for most homes these days. (Then again, the donations ARE tax deductable, so they get the money back, right?)

My next question is, how can Nadya be so bad? After all, the other six children are for the most part healthy and happy. Surely, they would have shown signs of abuse or neglect if she was doing so much wrong, but they do not. Matter a fact, dr. Phil even said that there is has been nothing substantial enough to warrant the removal of these children. Therefore, it seems that Society is jumping the gun, which only stands to hinder any efforts made by Nadya, and creates a negative atmosphere for the children.

The fact is, when the AIW approached this situation they contaminated the scene with negativity. By doing so, they destroyed any chance of truly bonding with Nadya. After all, who wouldn’t become fearful and paranoid with the AIW pointing fingers and running to the state over every little detail? Such actions are not part of “Mandatory reporting"; especially when Nadya was obviously open to suggestions, and made efforts to change things before they reoccured. Then again, I believe that this organization was intentionally placed in the Suleman’s home in order to investigate and report her as unfit so that child services could remove the children, instead of to assist her attempts to provide a safe home for 14 children. This of course is another controversial topic, because some people believe that the reports were justified when I do not. For that matter, as a future psychologist, I would recommend against such reports, unless the allegations are part of a predetermined list. In other words, there needs to be changes made so that mandatory reporting has “guidelines” instead of being decided by a worker. I say this because it allows professionals to endulge in ethnocentric behavior.

For example: The way I see it, the AIW should not have been allowed to dictate who could enter Nadya’s home in the first place. They were there to assist not DICTATE! Of course, some one is going to say “But these babies are fragile.” Well ok, but the fact is that when any other child is released from the hospital, it is ALWAYS assumed that the child is “ready” to face the public. I mean, most parents do not lock their babies in a nursery, so why should Nadya? Most parents carry their babies around in public, and have unlimited guests. So why is it so wrong for Nadya to show these babies off? After all, Dr. Phil wants transparency, and how much more transparent can you be than to have camera crews recording the family’s every move? And as for the paparazzi and other trespassers, those people should have been arrested. That was not Nadya’s fault that was the “evil” of society!

Anyway, after following this story, I feel Nadya did the right thing, because the AIW cannot be trusted. Therefore, it is my hope that the hospital and public health nurses will continue to provide the positive interaction that Nadya needs in order to finally have all her babies home.

Of course, I am also hopeful that society remembers the AIW organization and quits supporting them. I would hate to think how many other families these women have attempted or succeeded in destroying.

A Grandpas Quest For Crayons

You can help Grand-Pa on his quest to bring happiness to sick children. No, I'm not asking for money. I'm asking for crayons. They sell them in packs of 4 at the dollar store, just $1 for 5 packs! If every member on Epinions even sent me one pack of crayons, Grand-Pa would have over 1,000 packs. He would be able to deliver coloring books and crayons to that many children. And, believe me, there really are that many children in children's wards and Ronald McDonald Houses.
Today I want to send out a special request... I read about a special man who makes coloringbooks for sick kids at hospitals and he needs crayons...
So, I ask you, to please look into your heart and find the time to donate some crayons to this Grand-Pa's cause.
ALL children deserve happiness in their lives, especially the sick ones that are often cut short in the first place.
If you would like to send crayons, please send them to:
Quest For Crayons
c/o Teen Trend Magazine
PO Box 567
Middle Island, NY 11953

Joke Lines

Q: What should you do if you see your
ex-husband rolling around in pain on
the ground?
A: Shoot him again.
Q. Why do little boys whine?
A. Because they're practicing to be men.
Q: Why are husbands like laxatives?
A: They both irritate the shit out of you.
Luv ya's!
Dana aka Asa
"Why does Sea World have a seafood restaurant ? I'm halfway through my
fish burger and I realize, Oh my God... I could be eating a slow
learner." Lynda Montgomery.
I've given up trying to escape from reality; they always find me
anyway.
Sorry, but my karma just ran over your dogma.
"Those who dance are considered insane by those who cannot hear the
music". - George Carlin
Someday your prince will come. Mine got lost took a wrong turn and is
too stubborn to ask for directions.
"Friends help you move. Real friends help you move bodies."

Bitchdom-author unknown

BITCHDOM
When I stand up for myself and my beliefs, they call me a
bitch.
When I stand up for those I love, they call me a bitch. When I speak my
mind, think my own thoughts or do things my own way, they call me a
bitch.
Being a bitch means I won't compromise what's in my heart. It means I
live
my life MY way. It means I won't allow anyone to step on me. When I
refuse
to tolerate injustice and speak against it, I am defined as a bitch.
The
same thing happens when I take time for myself instead of being
everyone's
maid, or when I act a little selfish. It means I have the courage and
strength to allow myself to be who I truly am and won't become anyone
else's
idea of what they think I "should" be. I am outspoken, opinionated and
determined. By God, I want what I want and there is nothing wrong with
that!
So try to stomp on me, try to douse my inner flame, try to squash every
ounce of beauty I hold within me. You won't succeed. And if that makes
me a
bitch, so be it! I embrace the title and am proud to bear it.
B - Babe
I - In
T - Total
C - Control of
H - Herself
B = Beautiful
I = Intelligent
T = Talented
C = Charming
H = Hell of a Woman
Send this to all the bitches you know, OR anyone you feel should become
a
bitch! From the Sisterhood of Bitchdom!!! May we all get what we want,
when
we want it and how we want it, because we sure as hell deserve it

If One day- author unknown

**If One Day..**
If one day you feel like
crying...
Call me.
I don't promise that
I will make you laugh,
But I can cry with you.
If one day you want to run away-
Don't be afraid to call me.
I don't promise to ask you to stop...
But I can run with you.
If one day you don't want to listen to anyone...
Call me.
I promise to be there for you.
And I promise to be very quiet.
But if one day you call...
And there is no answer...
Come fast to see me.
Maybe I need you.
If I ever ignored you.
I'm Sorry...
If I ever made you feel bad or put you down.
I'm Sorry...
If I ever thought I was bigger or better than you.
I Luv You...
Don't ever forget that! Through bad times and good,
I'll always be here for you.
I am Sorry...
For everything wrong I've ever done.
I'm writing this because what if tomorrow never comes?
What if i never get to say good-bye or give a u a BIG hug?
What if i never get to say I'm sorry or I love you?
Because what if tomorrow never comes?
(author unknown)

I'm not saying

A college student invited his mother over for dinner. During the meal,
his
mother couldn't help noticing how beautiful his roommate Julie was.
She had
long been suspicious of a relationship between he and Julie, and this
made
her more curious.
Over the course of the evening, while watching the two interact, she
started
to wonder if there was more between he and Julie than met the eye.
Reading his mom's thoughts, he volunteered, "I know what you must be
thinking, but I assure you, Julie and I are just roommates."
About a week later, Julie came to him and said, "Ever since your mother
came
to dinner, I can't find the beautiful silver tray. You don't suppose
she
took it do you?"
He replied, "Well I doubt it, but I'll write her a letter just to be
sure."
So he sat down and wrote:
"Dear Mother,
I'm not saying you "did" take a silver tray from my house, and I'm not
saying
you "did not" take a silver tray. But the fact remains that one has
been
missing ever since you were here for dinner.
Love,
Your Son"
Several days later, he received a letter from his mother which read:
"Dear Son,
I'm not saying that you "do" sleep with Julie, and I'm not saying that
you
"do no't" sleep with Julie. But the fact remains that if Julie was
sleeping
in her own bed she would have found the silver tray by now.
Love,mom

Inner strength

If you have the inner strength to ...
--start the day without caffeine or pep pills,
--be cheerful and ignore aches and pains,
--resist complaining about your troubles,
--understand when loved ones are too busy to give you time,
--overlook the times when loved ones take things out on you,
--take criticism and blame without resentment,
--face the world without lies and deceit,
--conquer tension without medication,
--and relax without liquor...

... then you most likely are the family dog

Silly Things

1. People who point at their wrist while asking for the time. I know
where
my watch is, buddy ... where the hell is yours? Do I point at my
crotch
when I ask where the bathroom is??
2. People in the supermarket check out line who wait until their entire
bill
is rung up before they begin writing their check. Hello...is the
store
name going to change, or the date, or your signature before the clerk
finishes? Get a clue!
3. People who are willing to get off their ass to search the entire
room
for
the damn TV remote because they refuse to walk to the TV and change it
manually!
4. When people say..."Oh, you just want to have your cake and eat it,
too."
Screw that!!! What good is a damn piece of cake if you can't eat it?
What
should I do...eat someone else's piece of cake instead??
5. When people say..."It's always the last place you look." No shit!!
Why
the hell would you keep looking for it after you've already found it??
Do
people do this?? Who and where are they??
6. When people say, while watching a movie ... "Did you see that?"
No, dumb ass, I paid $7.50 to come to a theater and stare at the
ceiling
up
there. What did you come here for??
7. People who ask, "Can I ask you a question?" Didn't really give me a
choice there, did ya buddy?
8. When something is "New & Improved," Which is it? If it's new, there
has
never been anything before it. If it's an improvement then there must
have
been something before it!
9. When a cop pulls you over and then asks if you know how fast you
were
going. "You should know, asshole. You're the one that pulled me over!"
Here's the 10TH thing that really bugs me....
10. Chain letters! Who the hell thinks that by annoying other people
with
stupid mail with no meaning, that they will grant you a wish, or make
your
long-lost love fall into your arms. Bullshit! I'm so sure that by
breaking a
stupid chain letter that the computer gods are going to curse me!!
What a crock of shit!!!
By the way, if you send this to some people, shit won't happen, and
that
person you're in love with won't come crawling to you ...so if you feel
this
is funny, go on and send it to some one else, but don't expect one damn
thing in return.
Have a super day!
Cassie
"No one cares how much you know until they know how much you care"

Baby Joke (Some things should be this simple)

Two babies were sat in their cribs, when one baby shouted to the
other, "Are you a little girl or a little boy?"
"I don't know," replied the other baby, giggling.
"What do you mean, you don't know?" said the first baby.
"I mean I don't know how to tell the difference," was the reply.
"Well, I do," said the first baby chuckling. "I'll climb into your
crib and find out."
He carefully maneuvered himself into the other baby's crib, then
quickly disappeared beneath the blankets. After a couple of minutes,
he resurfaced with a big grin on his face.
"You're a little girl, and I'm a little boy," he said proudly.
"You're so clever," cooed the baby girl, "but how can you tell?"
"It's easy really," replied the baby boy, "you've got pink booties and
I've got blue ones."